Building good relationships - Part 2

If haven't read part 1, click here to do so before reading this post.
 
These 2 facts are about your special one :-

Fact 3 :- He/she is an organism with survival instinct being his/her top most priority.
Fact 4 :- He/she is an organism with need to produce offspring as his/her second top most priority.

You didn't seriously thought that your special one will be any different human being than you ?
Realize this :-

He/She will treat you as his/her instincts force him/her to treat you. How you treat him/her , has nothing to do with how he/she will treat you ! And he/she will always have "justified" reasons for the behaviour.

But , it seems so wrong ?

I am truthful, dutiful and faithful - still my husband does not treat me well :O
I love my wife so much, but she betrayed me and had an affair with another man :O
My boss does not see my hard work and always complains :O

Add as many "wrong" situations as you want here

But realize this :- People will treat you as they want to treat you.You can not control them !!!

"Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too."
--Will Smith

“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”--Wayne Dyer

Getting the point here ? You may not be able to stop people from hurting you, but you can still chose to not get hurt, and chose to live your life as you want. Go back to Part 1 of this series to understand You better. To understand that if people hurt you, and you do something

• to take revenge, or  
• because now it "is right" to act in certain way, or 
• because "he/she also does the same" - 

then you have not understood the first 2 facts. Your life, your actions, your reasons - do not justify it with other people actions.


If you have realized these 4 facts , to be continued .......

Cookie:- Coming up soon